Last Updated on 12th September 2025 by Charlie Walsh
Ahh, shower sex. Equal parts fantasy and logistical nightmare, and the kind of thing you think only exists in R-rated sitcoms. The truth is, when done right, shower sex can be slippery, steamy, and wildly intimate. When done wrong? It’s a cold, cramp-inducing balancing act with a very real risk of a concussion.
But don’t let one bad angle – or bruised shin – scare you off. With the right positions, communication, and a towel on standby, shower sex can be one of the hottest experiences you’ll ever have (and not just because of the water temp).
So let’s talk shower sex positions – the best ones to try, how to pull them off, and what you’ll need to avoid slipping into your own emergency room visit.
1. The Stand and Deliver
Classic for a reason. One partner stands facing the wall, legs slightly apart, while the other enters from behind. You’ve got water cascading over both bodies, the visual is incredible, and it’s got that “we couldn’t wait” energy.
Pro tip: Slightly bend the front partner’s knees for better balance and angle. One arm on the wall helps, too. For even more control? Use the shampoo shelf as leverage (just don’t knock it over).
Best for: Shower beginners, lazy Sunday mornings, people with decent height compatibility.
2. The Lather Lift
A spicier take on the classic lift position, but wetter. One partner lifts the other (who wraps their legs around the lifter’s waist), backs them against the wall, and holds them up for a good ol’ fashioned raunch session.
Caution: This is not for the faint of thigh. Only attempt if you’re confident in your leg and core strength – and the wall is very stable.
Upgrade: Use a sturdy suction shower bar or install a sex-safe handle. Or better yet, move it to the bedroom and pretend it was a shower thing.
3. The Slippery Sitter
Bring a waterproof stool or sit on the built-in bench (if you’re one of the lucky ones who has one). One partner straddles the other, riding them in a seated, slippery embrace.
Why it works: It removes the balance issues and lets you lock eyes, kiss, or go full smut-mode.
Bonus: Easier access for external stimulation. A clitoral vibe, a little dirty talk, and boom – you’re suddenly having the best sex of your week, in the place you usually shave your armpits.
4. The Backdoor Steamy
For anal enthusiasts – or those ready to explore. One partner leans slightly over with hands on the wall or thighs, the other enters from behind. Water keeps things warm, but lube is still essential, because water-based lube washes away fast.
Pro tip: Go slow. Use a water-resistant anal plug as a warm-up. And for the love of comfort, communicate clearly.
Works best for: Experienced couples, high-trust pairings, and anyone wanting a little p-spot experimentation mid-shower.
5. The Soap Opera
You’re face-to-face, bodies pressed together, hips grinding, water raining down like you’re in a movie scene that got cut for being “too suggestive.”
Pros: Great for kissing, chest-to-chest intimacy, and slow, sensual friction.
Cons: May require some height adjusting or tiptoes, depending on who’s doing what.
Add-on: Let one partner grind while the other takes care of business manually. It’s hot, low-effort, and gives big “we’re not even trying to rush this” energy.
6. The Towel Rail Tease
This is not a position where penetration is required – but it’s one of the hottest shower foreplay setups you can pull off.
One partner grabs the towel rail or ledge for balance, while the other teases with kisses, licking, fingers, maybe even a toy if it’s waterproof. Keep the water hot but not blasting – nobody wants a jet of water in their eye during cunnilingus.
Pair with: Light hair pulling, whispered filth, or even a cheeky slap. It’s all about the tension here.
7. The After-Rinse Finish
Let’s be honest – sometimes the best part of shower sex is what happens after the pressure of not falling dies down.
Dry off together, drag each other back to bed, or keep it going with a toy, handjob, or whatever you were too slippery to finish in the shower.
Because we’re incredibly nosy – and also wanted some not-so-glamorous recounts – we asked our readers for their most memorable shower sex moments – funny, steamy, or straight-up mortifying. Here are our favorites:
“I tried shower sex with my girlfriend during our first year of college. Not only did the hot water run out after five minutes, but someone walked in on us because we forgot to lock the shared bathroom door. We haven’t re-attempted since.” – Max, 25
“My wife and I tried to do the whole ‘pick her up against the wall’ move. Except my foot slipped. I’m genuinely surprised we didn’t break a bone. It was the least sexy sex we’ve ever had, but we were able to laugh about it after – and we’re still together!” – Jake, 33
“I don’t know if it was the temperature or the fact we hadn’t had sex in a week, but the angle plus the hot water = mind-blowing orgasm. I forgot where I was for a second.” – Adrien, 34
“I actually orgasmed mid-slip and then collapsed into him because I lost my balance. He caught me. We laughed so hard we had to sit down and finish things with a hand. 10/10, would do again – just with a mat this time.” – Bea, 30
Final Splash
Shower sex can be a hot mess or just plain hot – it depends on your prep, your mindset, and your ability to laugh when things go sideways. The best sex isn’t always the most flawless. Sometimes it’s the steamiest, silliest, slipperiest moment of your week – and that’s exactly what makes it worth repeating.
So grab a mat, adjust the water, and get creative. You don’t need a porn-star body or a spa-style walk-in. You just need two willing bodies, a decent grip, and maybe a waterproof vibrator or two. When you’re ready for next-level performance outside the shower too, check out honest feedback on penis pump outcomes from our customers to see what consistent gains can really do.
FAQs
What’s the safest way to have sex in the shower?
Use a non-slip mat, keep the water at a comfortable temperature, and consider installing a handle or grab bar for balance. Positions with solid footing or a seated option are the safest.
Can water replace lube?
No. Water actually washes lube away – and your body’s natural lubrication, too. For shower sex, opt for silicone-based lube that holds up in wet conditions.
Is shower sex really that good?
Yes – if you do it right. The combo of heat, skin contact, and steam can be wildly intimate and arousing. But poor positioning, awkward angles, or rushing can make it underwhelming. Prep is everything.
Can I use toys in the shower?
Yes, but check they’re waterproof (not just water-resistant). Suction toys, vibes, and plugs designed for wet play are fair game – but avoid anything battery-powered that isn’t rated for full submersion.
What’s the best shower sex position for first-timers?
Try The Stand and Deliver. It’s simple, easy to adjust, and lets you focus on rhythm and balance without acrobatics.
